Category: New Life

How to make them respect you?

‘Nowadays no one is real friend, all of them are mean. She does that. He says that’, it’s very common to hear these words among family groups and friend circles. The one complaining is not noticing that these lines suggest they are not being respectful towards the person they are talking about. And, one of the most important elements of any strong relationship is respect… mutual respect. While mutual affection is important too, I really believe a relationship devoid of passionate love can still be saved but virtually it is not possible to continue with a relationship lacking mutual respect.

I emphasis on adjective “mutual”. It has to be from both sides. If you believe somebody is not worth your respect or the other person believes that you are not worth respect, what’s point of staying in relationship with that person. And, if you think they don’t deserve to be respected as you are richer, smarter, bigger or better, you don’t deserve that relationship anyways. In both the cases complaining is futile.

Respect does not only mean how we talk to a person or behave in public or certain social set up. Respect also includes how we think about that person. And, it is more important than talking. Our relationship does not depend on how we behave but also on how we think about them is equally or I would say more important. Vibrations follows thoughts and the kind of thoughts we create for the other reaches to them in form of vibrations and one can feel it really deep. Have you ever felt really nasty and uncomfortable in presence of some person all though apparently that person is behaving well within the socially acceptable norms? Have you ever felt like I did so much for that person, so many gifts, such nice appreciating words but our relationship is not that good? Check what you were thinking inside while you were doing all the things outside. Have you ever cooked and served unwillingly with a fake smile, thinking ‘why did he came this point of time? Oho, now I have to cook. People don’t even see time these days before self-inviting themselves. I wish they go fast and do not plan a stay over.’? If this is the quality of thoughts we create, what kind of relationship can we really expect? And then, we say, see I did so much for them but they don’t even bother to say a thank you. And the vicious cycle of thoughts goes on, ‘nowadays no one is ……….’

I completely understand there are a few people who are really thankless and go around believing the world owes them something. We for sure cannot really expect mutual respect from them and hence no real relationship will be developed. No expectations there but once in a while doing an introspection is really helpful.

I strongly believe in law of karma and understand that eventually we receive what we give. In order to receive we must be willing to give first. Be it a romantic relationship, professional one or a friendship mutual respect will make it stronger, deeper and more meaningful.

In a seminar a sage asked, “who all wants to know how to make their partners respect them?” Audience raised their right hands tall, unanimously. The sage said, “Give respect”.

-Nileema Jhunjhunwala

Are you ready to die? Are you ready for new life?

Say if you come to know that you are going to die in 5 hours, or 5 days. What will you think and how you would love to depart? Are you ready to die? Are you ready for new life? What will you do?

Make a list of all those things and execute them now. You are gonna die. Yes! To make a fresh start let go of the past you. To make rest of your life best of your life, to create a better version of yourself, to live the life you always wanted to live – let go of past and START A FRESH.

Letting go of the past is very important. Past experiences, a few bitter events which happened in past maybe we don’t remember them at this moment. Maybe we can’t recall the whole incident at this very moment but we carry that in our heart subtly. Deep in our mind they still haunt us.
These negative stories dilute the quality of how we think and hence dilute the quality of our life.

Apologize – No matter how smart, right and intelligent we think we are; we still make mistakes! All of us somewhere, sometime do something that hurts somebody. Knowingly, unknowingly if you have ever been to that route, today is a day you should ask for forgiveness. Call the person, meet him or write a letter. Just say sorry. If the person is not ready at this time to understand your “sorry” you confess it in front of your creator and promise that you wont ever repeat it again. You clear your backyard, they clean their heart or not is their choice, their journey. And, if the person is no more in the world. Sit back in silent with supreme soul (God) for few minutes, emerge that person in front of you through imagination and in presence of your creator ask for forgiveness.

Forgive and Get Free – Its easy to say sorry but is it equally easy to understand their sorry? And, what if they are not even feeling or saying sorry? Will they ever realize what they have done to you if you simply forgive? Ask me. I have been through all these questions and now understand. Forgiving is not about them; it is not for them; it is for me. I forgive, because I deserve peace and not because they deserve it. Besides, who am I to judge who deserves what? I can tell you one thing, to get free, you must forgive.

But I am unable to forget what they did.
But The bad they did to me was too big to forgive.
But they will hurt me again if I forgive them.
They are not sorry, what is benefit of forgiving.
They have always taken me for granted.
It is impossible to forgive and forget. Easier said than done.
They never respect me. Why should I forgive?
Still have these and many more questions and doubt around forgiveness? Contact me.
I had been through the very rough road and can help you find all your answers to understand the essence of forgiveness.
It is very very important before you start new life.

Let go of bitter past – If your hands are full of old toys you can’t hold any new toy. Often, we feel what happened with us in past is truth, it had happened to us and so we have all the rights to moan about it forever. We use to revise the incident time and again in our mind and relive the pain again and again, deepening it further. Past is gone, its nowhere now. What your mind hold is only =what your mind creates (thoughts) now. It is our choice, we can choose Power Prayer, Forgive and Get Free, Learn Meditation or hold onto the bitterness.

Lets choose new life, lets choose better way of living, lets choose new way of thinking Learn Meditation. Meditation helps us a lot in gaining power to face our past karmas and their consequences. Meditation helps us a lot in gaining power to refresh and restart.

Today tell yourself, “Thank you past! Welcome new Life!”.

Thank you for taking out time to read this.

-Helping people lead happy lives. Your Life coach
Nileema Jhunjhunwala

Thank you past! Welcome new Life!

From working 9 hrs a day as a professional Chartered Accountant, in a top niche MNC to a 24 hours highly respectful job of a mother, I have come a long way!

When I walked into 2018, I was mother of four months old and on a career break. Today when my little one is 40 months (Jan 2021) and I am more mature mother, if I compare myself from what I was before sometime back, I realize how long a way I have walked. Last one year (or so) in itself was a long ‘transformational’ journey. Thanks to my husband’s support I was into a continuous education plan and today I am a known Life Coach, hold a diploma in HRM, a PG Dip in business management and a Pranic healer besides being CA.

Starting a new career, trying something different from people around and growing up in your new chosen field is throbbing for the callous lessons it offers. But doing what you always wanted to do feel nice. From knowing my purpose to challenging myself to pursue it, and taking a plunge out of my comfort zone to actually put my work out there being vulnerable, I have walked a long way and have evolved into a stronger, wiser woman.
From a happy go lucky free bird to a responsible mother. From a pampered wife to a working mom. From expecting good behaviour from everyone to a person who wants to take responsibility of her own awakening I have challenged myself and evolved a lot.

I was insulted, respected, accepted, rejected, doubted, believed, loathed and loved. I lost, I achieved, I fell, I bounced back, I did things that felt right to me. A daughter, a daughter in law, a wife and a Mom… and above all I am me! Far from being perfect, learning something new every day, a fun-loving child at heart who believes in miracles!

I am a blissful soul and I sleep deep and peace each night.

During my journey, I have received some lovely emails, happy messages and praising feedback from smiling souls. I treasure them all close to my heart. I want to take a moment to deeply thank you all my friends, family, clients & well-wishers and honour you for being part of my journey so far and for your devotion to your journey to improve and evolve.

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