What is the answer and how to get there?
There was a time I was a complete People pleaser, and I believed that saying ‘Yes’ to everything will help me feel accepted, loved and liked. My biggest fear was ‘Fear of Rejection’ and that’s the reason I did everything I could to avoid conflicts and confrontations.
But, guess what… I was still rejected, insulted, being mocked at and was being talked about behind.
Initially I blamed others but in vain. After trying everything outside I Finally turned inside in search of love and peace. In my pursuit of happiness, I discovered – It was me who was weak. I did not feel worthy enough in myself, I did not value my worth and I was seeking outside approvals and validation to feel that worth.
I lacked self-Love. Craving for love I just wanted somebody else to come and make me feel loved, turning inside and knowing myself gave me knowledge, understanding and power to respect myself.
Love – Self-love is the answer – meditation is a way to it.
Don’t be afraid of losing people. Be afraid of losing yourself by trying to please everyone around you. Losing sight of who you are and what your core values are, is the worst thing you can do to yourself.
Besides, it is only through loving yourself first it is that you can possibly love others. Practice meditation and Be the love you are.
Helping people lead happy lives.
-Nileema Jhunjhunwala
